Are they judging me? #fearlessfriday

This is a really unplanned blog post. And I think these are the best, because than things can really come from the heart. Maybe.
 
The struggle with blogging or just even putting yourself out there in life is the fear of what people will think. Will they laugh? Will they judge me? Will they dislike what I have to say? Not everyone is afraid of this, but most people are. And I'm coming to realize that this fear never really goes away when you pursue the things that you believe in and the things you are passionate about.
 
So Eff it, At the end of the day someone will have an opinion of you, and whether that's good or bad, isn't up to you or me. Their thoughts are a reflection of themselves, and not you. ( I used to believe that was some B.S. to make people feel better, but as I'm growin' up, I realize that this is truth, what someone thinks is because of their own reality, and their own thoughts about themselves, most the time it isn't you. You just trigger something in them. )
 
It's up to us to stand fearless, live our lives despite the fear, and take fearless action. Whether you do bad or do great, people will still talk about you. So why don't you just live the life you've been too scared to live? Why don't you give it your 100/0 best? I'd rather live a really amazing life, because if people talk anyways, why not just live it to your best, and not to theirs. Why not you?
 
Some food for thought... I hope everyone has an amazing Friday!

<3 Kelly 

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Sunday

This rainy/cloudy weather just makes me wanna cuddle in bed, and just read and journal. But this morning, we've already finished our weekly personal development book club with our friends in Taiwan! :) It's definitely a challenge, because I am so not used to speaking in chinese nor translating my personal development thoughts into chinese. Its a new challenge, but something that I'm working on overcoming.

Just wanted to share some of my sunday reads/thoughts/things I like with everyone here, some oldies and some newies.. lol!
  • Danielle literally hits it over the head AGAIN! No surprise here lol, her email insights always feed my heart what I need to hear, this time's its about authenticity. Be your REAL you! 
  • It's kind of crazy how 2015 is 3 months away from being over! Like I really can't believe it, and this is a little reminder that change is good for the soul.
  • Because when you allow yourself to say NO to things that you don't want, that don't light you up, even though it might make you look like a bitch, it opens you up to more of the YES's of life. Love Danielle! 
  • "A nice person is a 'yes' person, whereas a good person is a person who accepts their responsibility in things and moves forward and tries to constantly evolve 
    and isn't afraid to say no or challenge someone or be honest or truthful." 
    - Miranda Kerr
    • 9 habits of debt free people , love this because true freedom is not having any financial debt. I love this list, because its so true, becoming debt free doesn't just happen it takes sacrifice, time, and I know from my own experience of being debt-free at 25.
    •  Keep your expectations in check - sometimes you think something is easy, and then when you find out its not you quit. Nothing worth having is going to be "easy" in anything, having real expectations doesn't mean forgoing your dreams either.
    •  Uhh.. who doesn't love Mindy Kaling?!  Love her "guide" to  confidence  it's funny and amazing!
Hope everyone enjoyed their Sunday! I know I have spending time with fam, shopping and having a cheesecake date. ;) <3

<3 Kelly 

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White on White on White

Above: All Valentin Yudashkin

From left to right: 1.2. Alice & Olivia, 3. Balenciaga

I'm kind of obsessed with wearing all black everything all the time no matter what season, so I think its definitely refreshing to put together an all-white ensemble. The beauty of white, is how it can be taken either very romantic, lacey and feminine or to a more modern and dressed up feel with the white suits and crisp silhouettes.

What do you think about all white for spring? I've always been very weary about wearing white pants, but this is one trend that I may try! I actually already have an all white ensemble that I've styled, and will need to share once its warmer out.

<3 Kelly

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Ringing in the New Year!



2014.
"The Days Are Long, the Years are Short"
- Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project.

I'm kind of speechless at this moment in time. Speechless that 2014 is over. 
Just like everyone else I feel like I could've should've done more. But forget that, for a moment, and be grateful for what did happen. 
Realizations/thoughts from 2014:
*I'm on a mission to change people's lives no matter what and no matter what others think.
*Small Minds = Small vision, Big Mind = Big Vision, don't let little minded people affect your own thinking of yourself.
*Sometimes you have to go through things alone. Come out on top. And continue to conquer yourself and the obstacles that happen when you're on the road to success.
*If anything I've learned, don't believe that little voice in your head. Its not telling you the truth about yourself. If you take the time and awareness to figure that out. Life will be better.
* I am grateful I get the freedom that I do have, and I appreciate it so much and wish to share this kind of freedom to those who are willing to work for it.
*I absolutely love the people that I attracted to me - I have had so much fun, laughter, and drama-free life in a while.
*Give yourself time to heal, sometimes grief will come in and surprise you.
*I'm not chasing happiness. I'm learning how to be joy, in all situations good and bad, happiness is just like any emotion, temporary. But joy.. that's really something. <3

2015:
* I am excited to grow more, be more, and laugh more, and have fun with this one life I'm blessed to have.
* I am dead set on making my father proud of me. #ripdaddyo
*  Do new things I thought I couldn't do.
*Push myself to reach the goals that I've set
*Give back to worldvision, by sponsoring a 2nd girl. I sponsored my first child when I was a sophomore in college, and I still sponsor her 7 years later.
* Stop comparing, and start listening to my inner higher self.
* Love on people hard, love on yourself. Love doesn't mean physical affection, it means appreciating them where they are at, and seeing the potential that lies within each and every human person.

Ah,, I'm so pumped! But I'm going to need to stop because I got a 6am wake up call. Gotta learn to love this disciplined life, with freedom it comes with self-discipline. Discipline is the key to happiness by the way if you were searching for the answer...well actually self-discipline. That's like a whole nother' blog post.

I've missed blogging. Not for other people, but for myself, because I love writing, and I love being authentic, and I feel like it brings my truly empowered side out. It felt like a chore at times, because I was sharing what I thought I should share. But I'm going to share what I want to share, and if that helps inspire other people and help people great. If it creates haters, even better, b/c haters can tell you what your fans won't and make you grind harder. <3

I'm back. Unscheduled. Unfiltered. Sharing Me. 2015 you will see me rise. So come along with me, or just watch me.

<3 Kelly 

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You Are Right Where You Are Supposed to Be!

Deep conversations tend to be my MO. I can't help but be intense and go for the deeper more meaningful conversations. And I realize and accept that that's just the way I am sometimes, and I'm learning to balance that in with humor, laughter and fun, but I'm grateful I have this tendency to be able to connect with others on a deeper level, because deep relationships, and friendships are what makes life truly meaningful.

Yesterday night I got to spend a very unplanned and super fun fourth of july with one of my best girl friends.
Amist our laughter and conversation, I realized its just like yes we're single and we're actually enjoying life on our own terms.
And as I'm typing this my mind is kinda blown because its true. And because I feel like everyone feels this type of pressure to be a certain way already especially in your twenties when you're figuring things out.
And you know what?
We are exactly where we are supposed to be even though a lot of people, thoughts and ideas have us thinking that there is something wrong with us when we're not married, or in a relationship or not where we want to be career wise. And that we can't be content and happy with our current lives.

For every opportunity that worked out or fell through, its meant to unfold this way.
There's nothing wrong with you if you're not where you imagined your life to be.
Just do better, and work on yourself and pursue the things that you want to pursue.
And to blame yourself, and talk to yourself unkindly.. is not doing you any favors.

You are right where you're supposed to be.
Release the fears, because that is what is holding you back.
And just because you're not where people think you should be. Just have faith and find peace and happiness in what's going on now. This time period in your life doesn't last forever, things are always changing and evolving. Start to enjoy it and things start to seem pretty awesome.

<3 Kelly