Real Talk Tuesday: Forget Busy, Find Clarity

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I've been wanting to write a blog post called Real Talk for a really long time. According to Urban Dictionary, Real Talk is "The philosophy of talking candidly and openly and honestly without fear of what others might think. A) usually for another's benefit to let them know of something that is usually hard to discuss B) to let others know that you are talking honestly and sincerely and that what you are expressing is not a joke and that you are unabashedly being true to your own thoughts and feelings". I sometimes wish that I had a really honest real talk friend, who would be like you need to get your life together, stop fronting and get to the reality of the situation. So this is your weekly dose of real talk, a reality check in yo face kinda thing. Well, okay maybe not so in your face, gently in yo' face, or at least I’ll try. ;)

Let's talk about busy. I duno about you but pretty much most my conversations go something like this: Omgah I have been sooo busy. Omgahd. I know right, me too, I am soooo busy too! Ya know, people are busy, people have things to do, places to be, and people to meet. That’s the norm, when people don't act like their busy or say they aren't, people tend to stare at them with a look of pity, ohh, thats nice.. and then change the subject back to their busy-ness. I know I'm guilty of reacting this way. You know what I’m talking about, we end up celebrating each other’s busy-ness, and praising it.

Since when was being busy something to celebrate? Its good to be busy, but not just for being busy sake. I’ve gone through that busy being busy part of my life. After graduating college, I started my own fashion biz, designing, sewing, PR, patternmaking, you name it, I did it. But at one point, I was always busy and always overwhelmed. But still not really going towards what I really wanted. I felt like something was missing from my life. I wasn’t really facing the reality of my situation, or the reality of where I truly wanted to go in my life. I came to a point, where I was like what am I doing with my time? Why am I so busy, and where am I going with all this? I had lost clarity on where I wanted to go in my life, and where I was going.

The truth was, I profoundly wanted to help people, and help people change their lives for the better. But everything I was doing was not in alignment with that. And that was when that feeling of something missing creeped in, and made me question what I was actually doing on a day-to-day basis.

The whole point of this post isn’t to make you feel bad for being busy. Life get’s busy there’s nothing wrong with that, so long as your busy with the things that are most important to you. If you’re not truly satisfied with your life, and you’re still busy with things you don’t want to be doing. Don’t let the act of being busy take up most of your life. Only to realize you were too busy with the wrong things, people and places, and end up somewhere you didn't even plan on being.

Being busy is a choice, and what your busy with is important. It comes down to making time for something, or someone. If you don’t have time for the things that are important in your life, then its time for a reality check. Its time to realize busy just means, I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m doing a lot of things to distract from the fact of not knowing. It comes down to time management, priorities & clarity.

We let busy dictate our lives. Worst of all, we use busy as an excuse to not live our best lives, or to avoid the reality of our current situations. Busy is much safer, than admitting that we’re doing things that don’t serve us, or our purpose. It makes us seem like we’re doing something but in the end, we’re just going in circles without clarity. Using busy as an excuse to stand idly by in your life, and not progressing and growing as a person is not okay.

So let yourself get to the root of your busy-ness, and find some clarity on what you, your heart, your soul wants. Start saying No to the things that don’t matter, and saying Yes to the things that do. You owe yourself this, because it’s your life, and it’s your responsibility to make it the best one!

So what are you busy with? And how are you going to make time for the things that matter most?

With Love,

Kelly