Real Talk Tuesday: Success

(Lol, this made me laugh so hard, cause it's so true!)

Success comes in different forms and different ways. 
Define your success, and you will be successful in your life, in your own way.
Everyone's form of success can look different, some people put relationships & love first, some people put career & fame at the top of their list.

Start by defining what your success looks like. It doesn't have to be cray.

And when you do that, the real journey begins, because well.. as this amazing depiction shows, success takes twists and turns to get there. But the arrow keeps going.
Your life is a journey, its never really a destination.

Success doesn't have to resemble what others have. It has to do with what you want in your life. 

Go for it! Success is defined by YOU!

With Love,
Kelly

Real Talk Tuesday: No Excuses

"There's a big difference between trying to do something and actually doing it. The truth is, we're either doing it or not. We use excuses to cover up the fact that we didn't put in the required effort to deliver. There's no excuse for being late, for not handing in an assignment, for failing an exam, for not spending time with your family, for not calling your girlfriend, and so forth. You can manufacture an excuse that's socially acceptable, such as having too much work or being sick but if you really wanted to deliver you'd figure out a way to make it happen.

Making excuses, or giving reasons for not delivering, is socially acceptable because it makes you sound   "reasonable". But even if you feel obliged to make excuses to others, you shouldn't make them to yourself."

- What I wish I knew when I was 20 by Tina Seelig

^^ This is real talk. It sounds super harsh, but its reality. 

If you really want to do something, there is no can't, there is only a won't. You aren't willing to do it.

The only thing you can really do is keep the promises you make to yourself and to others and keep 100% integrity with yourself!

If you can't do something, then just be honest about it.

Prioritize what you want, and you won't have any excuses to not do something. 

Your either doing something or not, so whats your excuse?

With Love,

Kelly

Real Talk Tuesday: Forget Busy, Find Clarity

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I've been wanting to write a blog post called Real Talk for a really long time. According to Urban Dictionary, Real Talk is "The philosophy of talking candidly and openly and honestly without fear of what others might think. A) usually for another's benefit to let them know of something that is usually hard to discuss B) to let others know that you are talking honestly and sincerely and that what you are expressing is not a joke and that you are unabashedly being true to your own thoughts and feelings". I sometimes wish that I had a really honest real talk friend, who would be like you need to get your life together, stop fronting and get to the reality of the situation. So this is your weekly dose of real talk, a reality check in yo face kinda thing. Well, okay maybe not so in your face, gently in yo' face, or at least I’ll try. ;)

Let's talk about busy. I duno about you but pretty much most my conversations go something like this: Omgah I have been sooo busy. Omgahd. I know right, me too, I am soooo busy too! Ya know, people are busy, people have things to do, places to be, and people to meet. That’s the norm, when people don't act like their busy or say they aren't, people tend to stare at them with a look of pity, ohh, thats nice.. and then change the subject back to their busy-ness. I know I'm guilty of reacting this way. You know what I’m talking about, we end up celebrating each other’s busy-ness, and praising it.

Since when was being busy something to celebrate? Its good to be busy, but not just for being busy sake. I’ve gone through that busy being busy part of my life. After graduating college, I started my own fashion biz, designing, sewing, PR, patternmaking, you name it, I did it. But at one point, I was always busy and always overwhelmed. But still not really going towards what I really wanted. I felt like something was missing from my life. I wasn’t really facing the reality of my situation, or the reality of where I truly wanted to go in my life. I came to a point, where I was like what am I doing with my time? Why am I so busy, and where am I going with all this? I had lost clarity on where I wanted to go in my life, and where I was going.

The truth was, I profoundly wanted to help people, and help people change their lives for the better. But everything I was doing was not in alignment with that. And that was when that feeling of something missing creeped in, and made me question what I was actually doing on a day-to-day basis.

The whole point of this post isn’t to make you feel bad for being busy. Life get’s busy there’s nothing wrong with that, so long as your busy with the things that are most important to you. If you’re not truly satisfied with your life, and you’re still busy with things you don’t want to be doing. Don’t let the act of being busy take up most of your life. Only to realize you were too busy with the wrong things, people and places, and end up somewhere you didn't even plan on being.

Being busy is a choice, and what your busy with is important. It comes down to making time for something, or someone. If you don’t have time for the things that are important in your life, then its time for a reality check. Its time to realize busy just means, I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m doing a lot of things to distract from the fact of not knowing. It comes down to time management, priorities & clarity.

We let busy dictate our lives. Worst of all, we use busy as an excuse to not live our best lives, or to avoid the reality of our current situations. Busy is much safer, than admitting that we’re doing things that don’t serve us, or our purpose. It makes us seem like we’re doing something but in the end, we’re just going in circles without clarity. Using busy as an excuse to stand idly by in your life, and not progressing and growing as a person is not okay.

So let yourself get to the root of your busy-ness, and find some clarity on what you, your heart, your soul wants. Start saying No to the things that don’t matter, and saying Yes to the things that do. You owe yourself this, because it’s your life, and it’s your responsibility to make it the best one!

So what are you busy with? And how are you going to make time for the things that matter most?

With Love,

Kelly 

perspective

Typically I like to avoid all forms of rejection and conflict. But I'm putting myself out there more with my new business, and its hard, but its amazing all at the same time. Why? Because I always thought being rejected and having a different opinion was because of my lack of worthiness, like I wasn't enough.

Now I realize, being rejected and not agreeing with someone, is sometimes a really great thing, because I just feel more empowered. The more No's you hear, the more Yes's you will get!! I really believe that... Its pushing me way out my comfort zone, but I am loving it, because I don't see rejection and things like that as a bad thing anymore but more of a way to grow.

And sometimes things just don't work out the way you want them to, and that is okay!

lessons learned 2012

After spending hours writing a horribly depressing and dramatic piece of how my year was not all that it was cracked up to be, aka my 2012 reflection. I am flippinitandswitchinitandreversinit (yep you know that missy elliot song) , and making it positively awesomer! :) I was really inspired by this post by Natalie of She takes on the world. It made me realize that whatever good or bad thing that has happened has taught me something. Coming from this perspective, gives me a chance to reflect on what I've learned.. soo here are some of the things I've learned in 2012!

This year I've learned...